从国外归来

毕竟你在国外经历了那么多新鲜刺激的事情, 回归家庭, 朋友, 旧的惯例(无论多么美好和舒适)可能看起来很无聊. It is natural to miss the excitement and challenges that characterize study in a 为eign country, 但找到克服这些负面反应的方法取决于你. 尝试新事物，在国内旅行，继续文化和语言研究.

One thing you can count on upon your return: no one will be as interested in hearing about your adventures and triumphs as you will be in sharing those experiences. 这不是对你或你的成就的拒绝, 但简单的事实是，一旦他们听到了亮点, 你的听众可能不会再对你感兴趣了. Be realistic in your expectations of how fascinating your journey is going to be 为 everyone else. 是短暂的.

Even when given a chance to explain all the sights you saw and feelings you had while studying abroad, 要连贯地传达这些信息，可能至少会有点令人沮丧. It is very difficult to convey this kind of experience to people who do not have similar frames of reference or travel backgrounds, 不管他们作为听众有多同情你. 你可以告诉别人你的旅行, 但你可能无法让他们确切地理解你是如何或为什么有这种特殊的感觉. 没关系!

就像你到海外后可能会有一段时间想家一样, 对人们来说，经历一些反向的乡愁是很自然的, 的地方, 还有你在国外学习时习惯的东西. 在某种程度上, 写信, 打电话, 发邮件, 发短信和保持联系可以减少抑郁, but feelings of loss are an integral part of international sojourns and must be anticipated and accepted as a natural result of study abroad.

It is inevitable that when you return you will notice that some relationships with 朋友 and 家庭 will have changed. 就像你在国外改变了一些想法和态度一样, the people at home are likely to have experienced some changes that are very important to them. 这些变化可能是积极的，也可能是消极的, 但指望不会发生变化是不现实的. The best preparation is flexibility, openness, minimal preconceptions, and tempered optimism.

Sometimes people may concentrate on small alterations in your behavior or ideas and seem threatened or upset by them. These incidents may be motivated by jealousy, fear, or feelings of superiority or inferiority. 避免或减少不适, 有必要监控自己，注意周围人的反应, 尤其是在你回来后的头几周. 如果你不去确认他们的刻板印象，这个阶段通常很快就过去了.

A few people will misinterpret your words or actions in such a way that communication becomes difficult. For example, what you may have come to think of as witty humor (particularly sarcasm, banter, etc.) and a way to show affection or establish a conversation may be considered aggression or "showing off." Continually using references to 为eign 的地方 or sprinkling 为eign language expressions or words into an English conversation is often considered boasting. 要意识到别人会怎么看你，以及你的行为可能会被如何解读.

Sometimes the reality of being back "home" is not as natural or enjoyable as the place you had constructed as your mental image. 当实际的日常生活比你记忆中的更不愉快或更苛刻时, 感到一些疏离感是很自然的. 许多海归培养了“挑剔的眼睛”,“看到你以前从未注意到的社会缺陷的倾向”.g.美国人是如此的浪费、物质、肥胖、匆忙等等.). Being critical is closely related to discom为t during readjustment and mild "culture shock. “心理比较很好, but keep them to yourself until you regain both your cultural balance and a balanced perspective.

许多海归因为没有机会应用新学的社会知识而感到沮丧, 语言, 以及实用的应对技巧，这些技巧在家里似乎是不必要的或无关紧要的. 为了避免持续的烦恼:必要时适应现实, 改变可能发生的事, 要有创意, 要有耐心, 最重要的是, use all the cross-cultural adjustment skills you acquired abroad to assist your own re-entry.

在家, 再加上工作的压力, 学校, 家庭, 和朋友, 往往会让海归们担心他们可能会以某种方式“失去”这段经历. Many fear that it will become compartmentalized like souvenirs or photo albums kept in a box and only occasionally taken out and looked at. You do not have to let that happen: maintain your contacts abroad; seek out and talk to people who have had experiences similar to yours; practice your cross-cultural skills; continue language learning. To the extent possible, integrate your overseas experience into your ongoing life and activities.